Failure, Defeat, Loss, Humiliation (Or In Other Words – The Makings Of Success)

There is no better than adversity. Every defeat, every heartbreak, every loss, contains its own seed, its own lesson on how to improve your performance the next time.

Malcolm X

Have you ever seen Cristiano Ronaldo get the ball just the way he likes it, in a position to score comfortably, do everything right, then send the ball off target? Did you catch that facial expression? And what do you think goes through his head? Is he saying “the goal was supposed to be a few inches to the right?”
Do you remember that time Georges Saint-Pierre, yes the very same man who is (rightfully) named the greatest MMA fighter of all time, lost to Matt Serra, a relative unknown at the time? In his very first title defense no less? After speaking about personal life interfering with his fight, George took that back and stated very clearly that Matt Serra was simply the better fighter that night.
When Joanna jedrzejczyk broke in tears during the post fight press conference, it was hard not to feel for her. She just lost her title, and with it, her dream of retiring from the sport undefeated. Yes, she spoke a lot of trash in the weeks leading to the fight, and I did not like it one little bit, but she is a human being caught on camera at a time most of us aren’t.
Yet, for the most part, she was ok. She said mostly positive things about her turning the page and working to get back to the top. She grudgingly credited Rose for her performance and game plan, and even if there was a hint of denial in her general message, I attributed it to the instant-gratification needs of today’s media – i.e. forcing her to face the press minutes after defeat and expecting a well thought out statement.
Twenty four hours have passed, and we read reports coming from her camp that she “wasn’t feeling well on the week of the fight.”
Let me say this first – It might very well be true. I am not here to doubt her, or her people.  I am however, of the opinion, that this was not wise.
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Yes she did. and did she do it with no intention? Did she do it “out of the blue”? Of course not, as my fellow combatdocket.com writter Benjamin Abrigo beautifully wrote, it was all part of a well thought out plan to beat the defending champion.
In that post, Benjamin describes how TJ Dillashaw and his coach came up with the plan to defeat another defending champion, Cody Garbrandt.
What was the message in Cody’s post fight press conference? In so many words – regardless of the result, I was the better fighter. And if in Joanna’s case, we could attribute it to shock and humiliation, in Cody’s case – let’s face it – we’re talking about pure ego. Complete disregard to reality.
Then, out comes Michael Bisping and says “I felt great, I trained hard, and Georges was the better fighter. He won.”
With your permission, I will spend another paragraph or two on the role of the media in all this before we move on.
Many of the fighters these days are very young. Some of our champions are very young. Youth is excitement, and showmanship. It is also, immaturity.
The media knows that. The promoter knows that. Yet, they send these young folks to the proverbial line of fire, riding an adrenaline roller-coaster, to be documented for eternity answering questions, which most of these young men and women are not prepared for in the best case, or just provocative and unnecessary questions in the worst.
Perhaps the post fight press conference should be reserved for the promotion head, who can answer question at his discretion, and at a later time, the fighters – having a chance to catch their breath and think things over – could face the press.
Let’s get back to the fighters.
While I put some of the blame on the nature of the beast, we cannot remove it all from the fighters themselves.
GSP says that the loss to Matt Serra made him what he became in the years that followed. Cristiano Ronaldo became a monstrous striker because he hates to lose. athletes like these, did not become what they are because of success.
Defeat, Failure, Loss, Humiliation. All of these words are perceived as negative because of the way they make us feel but they could – perhaps more so in the context of competitive sports – be referred to as a source of motivation and opportunity.

Drivers of change.

GSP never looked past another opponent again in his life. In fact, he frustrated reporters and fans alike every time he deflected questions about other opponents, stating that it would be disrespectful to his current one. Actually, by maintaining this attitude, Georges respected himself and his profession more and channeled his focus on the target in front of him, and worked hard at improving the aspect of the game he needed to, in order to win his next fight.
TJ Dillashaw experienced all of these in the very first round of this very championship fight. He went to his corner and came out of it a changed man.
Ronaldo walks away from that miss with one thought in his head “Next time I will do it better.” and if he misses again? “Next time I will do it better.” He will shoot hundreds of balls at practice and perform whatever task again and again until he gets it right. Because it’s not the opposing defender’s responsibility to allow him access. It’s his own.
So some advice to young fighters:
  • Learn to be more humble in victory – It will buy you a lot of credit in defeat.
  • Do not be ashamed in failure – It is not the end of the world. We all experience it.
  • Embrace defeat and own it – It is a great opportunity to improve (in every aspect of our lives).
  • Give credit – Not only is it a nice thing to do – the appropriate thing to do – it also prevents embarrassment. If you discredit someone who beat you, then in essence your loss is bigger. If you beat someone you discredited, then what did you really achieve by winning?


UFC 217 AfterMMAth (King Georges The Second)

Last time around, we called this “The history channel” and well, it was.
But when it comes to pure MMA, Drama, Significance to titles, and overall performance, I think UFC217 made a very strong case for being THE one. Dana was right, we can’t forget past events, and some were indeed epic, so we will let the dust settle and leave that call for another day. This morning, I’m still buzzing (as I expect many of you are) over a card that justifies every superlative.
As always, let’s discuss my picks quickly. Then, we’ll chat about this, that and the other.

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Ultimate Fighting Championship (What’s In A Name?)

In 2002 the World Wrestling Federation (A.K.A WWF) lost the court case, and the ensuing appeals to the cute pandas and had to re-invent itself. True, It was a change of one letter, which doesn’t sound like much, but I’d like to point out a couple of things that followed very closely:
The F (for “Federation”) became an E (for “Entertainment”)
The “wrestlers/Fighters” became “Superstars
The female “wrestlers/Fighters” became “Divas
Notice the significance? Not only did Vince McMahon change the name of this organization, but the terminology and jargon. That was done, in accordance with the fact that this promotion is in fact an Entertainment business, with superstars and divas as… well… stars.
The pro-wrestling terms “Mark” (coming from the carnival days – the mark of a deception/trick etc. a person “buying” the act) and “Smark” (“smart mark”, a guy who knew the whole thing is staged) quickly disappeared, and everyone began to openly discuss the “entertainment” aspect of the business as the factor directing it.
When Brock Lesnar joined the UFC in 2008, the majority of the MMA fanbase – pardon my French – lost their shit.
Get back to fake wrestling!” was the sentiment. “We don’t need your WWE $h!t!
See, MMA fans became ones because they wanted to see real competition between skilled fighters who actually used the different martial arts to prove superiority.

Fast forward to present day (Mid 2017 more or less):

The “Biggest fight in combat sport history” is between a Mixed Martial Artist and a retired Boxing legend.
The next biggest fight according to general fans vocal opinion – a 3rd encounter between two fighters who never seemed to have anything to prove to each other. Well, other than who can back his trash-talk better.
Already scheduled is a fight between current MW champion, Michael Bisping (who to this day defended his belt against a 45 year old almost retired legend and another 40 year old legend who came back from a horrible injury) and the legendary WW champion and all-time best – Georges St. Pierre (who is coming back from a 4 year break).
When some of us MMA fans pointed out that the direction UFC is heading in is far from where we think they should, we were met with a cold shower of responses “educating” us about the business.
Conor makes a gazillion in a month”, “No one wants to watch Demetrious Johnson win another fight”, “Bisping doesn’t sell PPVs” and so on and so forth.
During the last couple of years, UFC (for the most part) went through a very significant transformation.
From the leading MMA promotion, attracting the best talent in order to provide consistently improving level of competition, thus becoming more popular, what we see now is an organization obsessed with making money in any way possible.
Fights are booked – so it seems – more frequently based on crowd demands and less on achievements or reason.
Fighters (seeing where the wind blows) understandably increase their “PR” or “Promo” work to get ahead.
I don’t know about you, but it really is starting to look like more of an “entertainment” business than a fighter’s promotion.

Which brings me back to 2008.

What happens is that the very same people who were ready to go after Brock Lesnar with tourches and pitchforks, chasing him back to his “WWE $h!t”, are now criticizing others for showing their dismay with this direction of entertainment first and sports/competition/MMA later.
As I wrote in various forums, for me, “This fight won’t make as much money as the other” is not a satisfactory reason. Call me crazy, but I still like MMA because I love watching two skilled individuals test themselves against each other. I know…

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Shut up already! You’re going to watch anyway!” Sure I will (Read my confession), what else is there to do? But I do think we deserve a more level headed approach. One where the important business decisions take more than just the bottom line into account.
Let WWE lead with “fake feuds” and “promos” and let’s focus on what we’re here to do. Sure, color your fights with whatever “background” and there’s always some trash-talking to do. But this is martial arts we’re here to watch and I, for one, still remember that it’s about respect. Respect for one’s self, for the arts and for the fans. What can I say?
When it comes to MMA I’m a “mark”.


UFC 213 AfterMMAth (Let There Be Not!)

In the beginning there was Cody Vs. TJ and all fans were a’crazed (yes, it’s a thing). Then the MMA Lord said “Let there be not!” and there was not.
On the second day there was Cowboy Vs. Lawler and manginas were wet. Then the MMA Lord said “Let there be not!” and there was not.
On the 11th hour there was Nunes Vs. Shevchenko and everyone in Peru and outside (including significant chunks of Brazil) were excited. Then the MMA Lord… or Nunes… or the doctor… or… god damn it, this card was cursed!
Or was it?
Let’s discuss my picks quickly and then, if I don’t pull out, we’ll do something new and exciting.

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Fixing MMA – Part Four

The name of this post should tell you that there are three more parts. Links to all can be found at the end of this post.

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UFC 204 AfterMMAth (#ThankYouHendo)

Hello there,
Welcome back for another AfterMMAth post and what an AfterMMAth it is. Strictly MMA speaking, UFC204 is way up there with the best event of the year contenders. Top to bottom, mostly finishes, mostly submissions, mostly chokes. Some really high quality showcased. And to top things off, the hometown hero reigns supreme while the legend can now retire on a really good performance.
Before we cover some important issues, let’s review the predictions I made:

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UFC 204 – Predictions

Hello there mates!
Manchester, England, England, Across the Atlantic sea. And I am a busy-bee, man. So let’s get to picking!
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