There is no better than adversity. Every defeat, every heartbreak, every loss, contains its own seed, its own lesson on how to improve your performance the next time.
Have you ever seen Cristiano Ronaldo get the ball just the way he likes it, in a position to score comfortably, do everything right, then send the ball off target? Did you catch that facial expression? And what do you think goes through his head? Is he saying “the goal was supposed to be a few inches to the right?”
Do you remember that time Georges Saint-Pierre, yes the very same man who is (rightfully) named the greatest MMA fighter of all time, lost to Matt Serra, a relative unknown at the time? In his very first title defense no less? After speaking about personal life interfering with his fight, George took that back and stated very clearly that Matt Serra was simply the better fighter that night.
When Joanna jedrzejczyk broke in tears during the post fight press conference, it was hard not to feel for her. She just lost her title, and with it, her dream of retiring from the sport undefeated. Yes, she spoke a lot of trash in the weeks leading to the fight, and I did not like it one little bit, but she is a human being caught on camera at a time most of us aren’t.
Yet, for the most part, she was ok. She said mostly positive things about her turning the page and working to get back to the top. She grudgingly credited Rose for her performance and game plan, and even if there was a hint of denial in her general message, I attributed it to the instant-gratification needs of today’s media – i.e. forcing her to face the press minutes after defeat and expecting a well thought out statement.
Twenty four hours have passed, and we read reports coming from her camp that she “wasn’t feeling well on the week of the fight.”
Let me say this first – It might very well be true. I am not here to doubt her, or her people. I am however, of the opinion, that this was not wise.
She cut me off, she caught me
Yes she did. and did she do it with no intention? Did she do it “out of the blue”? Of course not, as my fellow combatdocket.com writter Benjamin Abrigo beautifully wrote, it was all part of a well thought out plan to beat the defending champion.
In that post, Benjamin describes how TJ Dillashaw and his coach came up with the plan to defeat another defending champion, Cody Garbrandt.
What was the message in Cody’s post fight press conference? In so many words – regardless of the result, I was the better fighter. And if in Joanna’s case, we could attribute it to shock and humiliation, in Cody’s case – let’s face it – we’re talking about pure ego. Complete disregard to reality.
Then, out comes Michael Bisping and says “I felt great, I trained hard, and Georges was the better fighter. He won.”
With your permission, I will spend another paragraph or two on the role of the media in all this before we move on.
Many of the fighters these days are very young. Some of our champions are very young. Youth is excitement, and showmanship. It is also, immaturity.
The media knows that. The promoter knows that. Yet, they send these young folks to the proverbial line of fire, riding an adrenaline roller-coaster, to be documented for eternity answering questions, which most of these young men and women are not prepared for in the best case, or just provocative and unnecessary questions in the worst.
Perhaps the post fight press conference should be reserved for the promotion head, who can answer question at his discretion, and at a later time, the fighters – having a chance to catch their breath and think things over – could face the press.
Let’s get back to the fighters.
While I put some of the blame on the nature of the beast, we cannot remove it all from the fighters themselves.
GSP says that the loss to Matt Serra made him what he became in the years that followed. Cristiano Ronaldo became a monstrous striker because he hates to lose. athletes like these, did not become what they are because of success.
Defeat, Failure, Loss, Humiliation. All of these words are perceived as negative because of the way they make us feel but they could – perhaps more so in the context of competitive sports – be referred to as a source of motivation and opportunity.
Drivers of change.
GSP never looked past another opponent again in his life. In fact, he frustrated reporters and fans alike every time he deflected questions about other opponents, stating that it would be disrespectful to his current one. Actually, by maintaining this attitude, Georges respected himself and his profession more and channeled his focus on the target in front of him, and worked hard at improving the aspect of the game he needed to, in order to win his next fight.
TJ Dillashaw experienced all of these in the very first round of this very championship fight. He went to his corner and came out of it a changed man.
Ronaldo walks away from that miss with one thought in his head “Next time I will do it better.” and if he misses again? “Next time I will do it better.” He will shoot hundreds of balls at practice and perform whatever task again and again until he gets it right. Because it’s not the opposing defender’s responsibility to allow him access. It’s his own.
So some advice to young fighters:
Learn to be more humble in victory – It will buy you a lot of credit in defeat.
Do not be ashamed in failure – It is not the end of the world. We all experience it.
Embrace defeat and own it – It is a great opportunity to improve (in every aspect of our lives).
Give credit – Not only is it a nice thing to do – the appropriate thing to do – it also prevents embarrassment. If you discredit someone who beat you, then in essence your loss is bigger. If you beat someone you discredited, then what did you really achieve by winning?